writings – Page 5 – xander @ xph therapy

What is BDSM and why do some in the therapeutic professions see it as a pathology?

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For some, BDSM can facilitate communication, trust-building and intimacy in relationships.

UKCP leaves LGBTQIA support agreement

Image of dinosaurs dressed in suits, sat or stood around the desk in debate.

The departure of the UKCP from a crucial agreement poses a direct threat to the dignity and rights of LGBTQIA individuals.

beyond breaking point: the window of tolerance

Image of dirty looking old window frame, through which a dark and disturbed sky can be seen.

What is the window of tolerance, and how can an integrative counsellor help someone stay within or return from outside it?

help we might not remember giving

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This is worth reading if you’ve got the time, especially if you’re facing mental or other struggles, for any reason.

a statement of professional clarity and solidarity with the trans community

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xph therapy, as a sex-positive, sexuality- and gender-affirming, fully trans-inclusive private counselling practice, is endorsing a statement of professional clarity and solidarity with the trans community.

why is a black dog a symbol of depression?

Image of the black dog, which represents depression.

The metaphor of a black dog is often used to describe depression. The black dog is out of its kennel; the black dog is barking, or growling.