reflections – xander @ xph therapy

lying and gaslighting: how to stop, where to turn for help

Lying can become protection. Gaslighting can become control when life once felt uncontrollable. Emotional manoeuvring can become a way to avoid shame, punishment, abandonment, or vulnerability.

knowing when not to engage

One of the most important things we can learn is how to protect our peace without losing ourselves in the process.

ghosting, moral superiority, emotional control: a counselling perspective

Emotionally manipulative behaviours used against you can lead to a lot of anxiety and questioning yourself. There are things you can do that will help you.

glass slippers: a reflection on relationships

All relationships teach us. They promote learning as much as they provide love, companionship, and someone to go to IKEA with.